Meg Worden, RYT

Change, we would probably all agree, is inevitable. I also imagine unanimity in describing the spirit-wringing effects along the evolutionary path as decidedly uncomfortable. Plenty of people spend a great deal of energy fearfully avoiding change (only to find it creeping in the back door while they are blockading the front) and will do well to integrate this truth: In an argument with reality, you will always lose.

  Just as steel must be tempered to change its shape in a blazing hot fire, we too go through many a process of having old behaviors burned away to reveal new life within. The experience can be anywhere on the spectrum from mild discomfort to heart rending grief. We have all been there, somewhere, and just as change itself is certain, gratefully so is the proverbial silver lining delivered in its cloudy midst.

Stoke your 'Tapas'

  The Sanskrit word "Tapas" refers to our inner transformative fire. Tapas is said to burn at the core of our being and is responsible for digestion of sensory stimulus as well as food. A purification practice along the lines of Yoga or meditation that involves decluttering the mind, disciplining one's actions and refining food choices intensifies Tapas and initiates positive changes. As the light of Tapas grows brighter, the causes of our resistance to growth are clarified, expressed and then released or burned away.

  Learning to embrace the necessary changes that allow us to reach our fullest human potential is thoroughly liberating. Becoming an active participant in our life and engaging in a practice of investigating our inner world is thoroughly empowering. We are capable of actually initiating some of these life changes that ultimately fill our lives with joy and serenity. And of course, by this you may deduce, that you are capable of bringing joy and serenity into your life.

One step at a time

  Changing behaviors and thought patterns is not for the faint of heart or the weak willed, but the tools are available to all. The key factor, as always, is perseverance. When you become aware of a need to change, come up with a plan. Figure out what actions you need to take to bridge the gap, and start taking them one at a time. Stay mindful to add new steps at a manageable rate and expect results to come gradually.

  Rushing headlong into the unknown can be overwhelming enough to send you scurrying back to the known comfort of your discomfort.

  Realize that once you are taking action, you are already a success. The only way to fail is to stop trying. Setbacks happen but should never be cause for discouragement. Utilize all of your available resources and ask for help when you need it.

  Personal struggle is simply part of this mortal coil, and respected friends or family members can be a wealth of inspiration and solidarity.